Self love is being love
Before I knew about Neville and his teachings, there was a time in my life when I experienced a lot of emotional pain. I had no idea how to heal myself, nor how to overcome this, and it was overwhelming. But then something happened in a moment of stillness, and all of my thoughts and all the pain disappeared into nothing but clarity. I felt the whole universe and the eternity inside of myself and it was the answer to every question I ever asked. It was pure love.
And when you discover the true God, you will find that He is all within your own wonderful being as your own wonderful human imagination.Neville Goddard – The Secret Of Imagining
Neville tells us that our imagination is God, and with his teachings I finally understood what I experienced years ago – I felt the source for everything within myself. I felt that there is nothing but love and every reason for grief, sorrow and loss is an illusion. I felt who I really am.
To me, this state of pure clarity is self love. When I am aware of who I am, I also understand what others are and so there is nothing but love for me and them. It is bliss and calmness, it feels secure and fulfilling. With this feeling comes forgiveness, empathy and gentleness, since there is no reason to not be gentle with yourself and others.
Self love – action and reaction
Self love is not something you do, but what you are. It doesn’t really matter what you do to love yourself, as long as you do everything from that state of being love.
Put yourself into that state of your highest good, the ideal you have about yourself, and be the person you want to be right now. Let any action and thought follow from that state. How would you treat yourself and others as this person? What self talk would you have as this beautiful, wonderful person you are already? What impulses, what goals and what image of your future do you have while feeling the infinity within your heart? How would you treat the world outside of your imagination while knowing, your imagination is God?
You might want to meditate to sink more into that feeling to enjoy it. You might want to do a workout or cook a healthy meal to honor your body, or it might be the desire to hug someone you love. It can be a nap or a shopping tour to gift yourself or others. You might want to reject anything that does not fit your ideal. You might want to dance, to cry, to paint or simply eat a piece of chocolate. There is no wrong way to express the love you are.
Self love and manifestation
If you want to use self love as a tool to manifest your desires, you are basically still the person who thinks of lack and effort, and you see your desires as something outside of yourself that needs to be attracted. Self love is not a tool to manifest, but the fulfillment itself.
While knowing who you really are and feeling the love you are, you automatically have only the best thoughts about yourself. There is no effort to repeat positive affirmations, because there is no reason to affirm anything negative. It becomes the most natural thing to visualize and to daydream a wonderful life while assuming only the best about yourself and others. Any self-harming thoughts and actions comes from an unfavorable self-concept and is a result of a lack of understanding.
Instead of using self love as a tool, remind yourself, who you really are and let this feeling embrace your whole being. Then you will see everything is already here for you, it always was and always will be.
Living in the end and self love go hand in hand with each other.
Self love – Dealing with obstacles, resistance and the fear to harm others
With the understanding of who you really are, obstacles and resistance become meaningless. When creation is finished, there can’t be an obstacle to hinder you. There is only resistance, when you accept resistance to be true. You can torture yourself by thinking about blockages and failure, or you can choose to spend your time with love.
Many people are also afraid to harm others while living their desires. They fear to be selfish or break a Golden Rule. When there is nothing but abundance and love, you cannot harm others. To think the fulfillment of your desire can hurt another person, you disapprove of yourself and your desires – neither you nor others gain anything.
There is no force outside of yourself approving for you. You won’t help anyone if you suffer. Accept that your desires are meant to be. They came to you through God and the fulfillment is always the best that can happen to you and others – you don’t need to modify your wish. No one involved will experience a less good life, just because you want to live the best you can imagine. You create the limits, so choose to claim nothing but abundance, and never settle for less than what you want.
Live only the life you desire, there is absolutely no reason why you can’t have it.