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The Illusion Of Separation And Loss – How To Heal Your Broken Heart

The source of love is you

You might have learned about the Law because you reached a low point in your life, and many of you want to reconcile with your love or heal your love life. If you found Neville Goddard and his teachings after a break up, a loss or because of unrequited love, and if you are still recovering from heartache and love sickness, please take this to your heart:

All is well, you are safe, secure and loved, no matter what.

Love is our birthright. Love is the fundamental necessity of our life. Do not go seeking for that which you are. Those who go seeking for love only make manifest their own lovelessness and the loveless never find love.

Neville Goddard

Neville always wants you to understand, who you really are: you are the universe. There is nothing outside of yourself, nothing that you experience is apart from your being.

In the beginning there is nothing but love and you are the source of it. All the love you experienced in your life, from your family, your friends or your partner – All this love had its beginning in you. Your physical experience only makes it appear through other people, a reflection of who you really are.

Isn’t it relieving to know, that everything you love is made of your own heart? All the beauty in this world is the beauty of yourself. Whatever keeps you breathless, whatever touches your heart and everything that makes you feel bliss, springs from your own divinity. It could never exist without you. Even if you can’t see it, it is still there waiting for you to experience it this very moment. You matter, you are important and irreplaceable. You may embrace and appreciate yourself for all of this fulfillment.

Misunderstood rules and reasons for love

You only forgot who you really are and you learned how to behave in this physical world. You also learnt to depend every experience on physical evidences. And so you depend love on physical appearances. This is how you make rules in your world. You claim somethings as true, and the world makes sure you will be right – this is the Law of Assumption.

You might have heard about people – or experienced by yourself – who find love, when they stopped looking for it. Your desire to find love comes from the assumption that love is not here yet. When you assume love is outside of yourself, by longing and searching for it, the world reflects your assumption of lack, not what you want. In order to find love there is nothing for you to do, but to accept that you already hold it in your hands.

Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.


No matter what you face right now in your love life, you can change this! No matter how impossible things seem, the love life you desire is already here for you.

The first step is the bravest: If you truly want to be the Goddess or God in your life, you must first accept everything you experienced so far as your own creation. Everyone is you pushed out, so people play the role you give them. No matter if you are aware of it or not, people have no choice but to act the way you accept as true for them.

But this is no reason to blame yourself here! Blame takes you nowhere and you already suffered enough, so acknowledge your own creation with kindness and clemency. Make yourself the gift of a beautiful love life by taking full responsibility: cancel all the unfavorable rules for love that you created in your past.

You grew up thinking that people love for reasons, like worthiness, attractiveness or destiny. Actually, these were never reasons for others to love you. In fact, you experience love from others if you allow yourself to feel love from them in the first place. You only allowed it within these reasons.

What reasons do you have for being unloved? Is it time? Is it space? Is it unworthiness, culure or karma?

Your belief to only be lovable when you are worthy enough created the illusion of this condition to be true. By assuming to feel loved by others only if they behave a certain way, you only blindfold yourself from love.

Remember, the only reason why people don’t love you, is because you keep assuming so, no matter what reasons you find to build that assumption. It is never truly about culture or society, it is never about the wrong timing, the space between you, the looks or wrong desires. There is no lesson to be learnt and the other one doesn’t need to get ready for you. There is nothing required in order for you to have the relationship you want. If your specific person still appears not loving you back, it is because you still find reasons to assume so.

Don’t wait for the mirror to give you reasons to feel loved. It only can reflect your own ability to feel the love you seek. And there are so many reasons to feel loved. You are enough, you are beautiful and talented. Still, your existence is reason enough to deserve love.

Illusion of separation, loss and finiteness

Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.


If you still feel loveless and heartbroken because of unworthiness, un-forgiveness, separation, a third party or rejection, please remember these are all only false mirages.

You are love, you are the universe.

How can anything be separate from you, when it is a part of you? How can anything get lost, when you carry everything inside yourself? A loved one could disappear from your field of vision, but never from yourself. Your beliefs and assumptions can create the illusions of oceans and years between you and your love — but they will never be real.

Think of the love you believe you lost, and remember how it felt when this love was part of your life. You can remember to be loved, you can remember your loved one being gentle and kind to you. This memory and this energy are not in the past. This love is still present and real, otherwise you couldn’t feel it.

The love was never gone in the first place.

To heal a broken heart comes with the understanding, that it can’t break at all. You only fell for the deception of time and separation. You stopped allowing yourself to feel loved through others because of illusions.

The overwhelming heartache you feel comes from your denial to feel who you really are. The more you refuse it, the stonger the pain gets.

The pain in your heart is telling you how wrong your beliefs and assumptions are. Cry it out, let the pain flow out and be gentle with yourself. Do you know this soothing feeling after a good cry, when one can imagine love with hope and faith, again? Your new hope is not a meaningless fantasy, it is already true. No love is gone and nothing is ever lost. Abundance is endless and nothing is finite and set in stone. No matter what you want, creation is finished. Your desire is a promise.

You can heal your heart if you drop all of the reasons you have to feel heartbroken. Allow yourself to feel loved again – it was always you and you can do this again. Release your illusionary blindfold and you will be free.

Everything and everyone you love is still here. All the love you desire is an inseparable part of yourself.

Don’t trust your physical senses, the only thing you ever need to trust is your imagination and your desires. There is no reason to feel silly or even ashamed for wanting all of this love, it has always been yours from the beginning and you choose the images and people to experience it. Dare to feel loved by everyone you love and your bravery will manifest in magical ways.

You are so loved, you always have been and you always will be.

About Author

Nikki is working as a graphic designer, she illustrates fantasy themed artworks. Some of her work can be found on book covers and her own books and graphic novel projects. Since she knows about Neville Goddard and his teachings about the Law, she wishes to combine art and Conscious Creation.


  • Rajkumar Dattatraya Kamble
    November 25, 2019 at 1:07 PM

    It was amazing article ,i am recommending it to everyone i know

  • Kanchan
    November 25, 2019 at 1:26 PM

    What an amazing article. Thank you so much for saying all this ❤️❤️❤️

    • Nicole
      November 26, 2019 at 9:27 AM

      Thank you, too, Kanchan. ♥

  • Maria
    November 25, 2019 at 4:37 PM

    Nicole, this article really touched my soul in ways that I cannot even express. Every word is infused with love. And not only in this article, but this community distills love in its purest form. Since I became part of it, love is taking over my life in many different ways. This article brought tears to my eyes; that’s the way my soul was saying yes, yes and yes. I felt like a click, like this is it, like the last piece of the puzzle has been put in its place. I’m deeply touched. Thank you to all of you, from the bottom of my heart and from the depths of my soul.

    • Nicole
      November 26, 2019 at 9:29 AM

      To read this makes me so happy, Maria. I am glad my words can help this much. ♥♥♥

    • Pan
      November 26, 2019 at 12:14 PM

      What if we feel that we are not as good as the third party ?

  • Mandie
    November 25, 2019 at 10:44 PM

    This is life-changing.

    • Pan
      November 26, 2019 at 12:12 PM

      What if I keep thinking a third party is better than me ,how should we react when we feel we are lower than the competition ?

      • Kamilla
        May 17, 2020 at 9:37 PM

        How could you ever thing that a „3rd party“ ( putting it like that because theres no third party theres only you) is better than you when its literally a reflection of you. I know it feels really real sometimes but remember they cant be with anyone else in this reality since every person is you❤️

      • Sara M Dann
        January 11, 2021 at 4:52 PM

        No one person is “better than” you. They might have skills or assets you don’t have and you might see that as making them more worthy of love than you, but in reality, they’re just different. They are still your equal, and maybe an inspiration, but never a reason to feel worthless <3

    • Tisha
      March 27, 2020 at 11:35 PM

      Thank you! I needed this.

    November 26, 2019 at 12:51 AM

    Wonderful Nicole, thank you for restoring hope in love, self-love, lost love, universal love and all kinds of love. You are just wonderful. I can feel the energy in this article. What you said is absolutely correct that love is always there. But sometimes we validate only if our SP is with us in physical reality. I am sure it will eventually come. The second last line says, Dare to be loved……..and your bravery will manifest in magical ways. WOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is one of the best finishers that I have ever read. You and Jeniffer do a fantastic job of instilling faith and hope in our lives. Deep gratitude for this wonderful work. I will re-read this article till it seeps into my head and heart. Gratitude always.

    • Nicole
      November 26, 2019 at 9:31 AM

      Thank you so much for your kind words. we really love what we do, it makes us so happy to help you. You are so welcome. ♥♥♥

  • Jenn
    November 26, 2019 at 11:55 PM

    Beautifully written article. Thanks ❤

  • Griselda
    April 7, 2020 at 2:28 AM

    Beautiful! thanks for every word, every post and for making our lives better with this pure wisdom <3

  • Alfredo Arantegui
    June 3, 2020 at 6:26 PM

    This is an amazing post, as I am going thru this feeling of gone in darkest of love by a break on a relationship, this has hit me deep in my soul like never ever before, this incident has awaken my soul to the next level. I have been saying to myself i am out of this sad feeling of missing her but I have realize that I can’t bring her back feeling this way, what I understand is that I am creating a lack of love within me. I must practice surrender and feel the love that I am. Thanks Nikki, I love this post, I love what you girls do, I am a big fan of Neville Goddard, on one of the meditation I encounter with him I was instructed to write his stories in Spanish, I did and published a book. I have accomplished amazing results with this lectures but this one in particular has made me weak. I am up and pushing to overcome this feeling that does not belongs to me or anybody. Namasté

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  • Viki
    November 9, 2020 at 11:24 AM

    This is amazing, thank you for opening my eyes to this idea because you are so right!

  • Zoegoddess
    November 22, 2020 at 7:37 AM

    I’m thankful for this article, it is just right in time, I do really, truly need to read this. I saved it and I am coming back to re-read it again at least a few tine per week. Thank you so much for writing this.


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