Before you learnt about the Law, I am sure you felt the feeling of being in love, or at least what it feels to like someone. Do you remember the love and bliss you felt? The feeling of completeness and wholeness? Maybe every problem seemed to dissolve, and it felt like everything was right in the world. You had someone to lean on, to share laughs and smiles with, and to embrace you. Or even just that feeling when you decided “this is my person” when you saw your specific person.
The reason you felt all of these beautiful feelings, is because you gave yourself permission to experience it. You gave yourself permission to love the other person, and to be in a relationship with them. You gave yourself permission to want them, and to feel all of these wonderful feelings and emotions. You accepted it as true for yourself and for your life, without even realizing it- it was all you.
There is a saying I heard a few years ago, something along the lines of “People want love so badly, because it is the closest thing we have to magic”.
At the time, I did not understand what this meant. Over the years, experiencing with the Law consciously, going through relationships, and then accepting who I really am, I finally understood what that saying meant. I felt it.
When you fall in love, the reason it feels so magical, so peaceful and so blissful, is because that feeling is the closest thing to the feeling of returning Home to your True Self. That feeling is a spark of who we really are, the essence of every part of us, to the core. But if you don’t know this, or haven’t fully accepted it, then when you break up with a person you might think this relationship, with all of the beautiful feelings, is difficult to attain or is gone.
You gave yourself permission to allow them to love you, and to be in this relationship with you. In other words, you did not resist your desires, you allowed yourself to accept this desire to be in a relationship with them, to love and feel for them very effortlessly. It felt blissful, it felt beautiful, it felt calm and reassuring.
Fear is resisting love. Because love is all that there is. God is love, and there can never be anything other than love. Even in the unlovely feelings and circumstances, right there is love, waiting for you to acknowledge it and recognize it. Your specific person is waiting for you. That relationship is waiting for you. Everything is waiting for you. Waiting for you to remember who you truly are.
If you don’t understand this, fear may overpower you, and the pain will feel so strong and real in that moment. But don’t worry, you can fall back, and forget who you are, because nothing can take away love. Nothing can erase the fulfillment of your desires. Right now, right here, you can give yourself permission to once again fall in love with love.
And then, you can give yourself permission to feel fulfilled, and to rekindle that relationship. You can do it as easily and as effortlessly as you did when you first met them, or when you first saw them. Just as easily as you accepted the wanting of the desire, is the same way you accept the having of the desire.
But then along the way, the false sense of separation and the illusion of incompleteness emerges. Fear begins and you might feel consumed by it. And when you fall for this illusion, you think you’ve lost this relationship. You start to participate in life through difficulty and conflict, when it comes to relationships and manifesting them.
Even when learning about the Law, some people are still believing this illusion, so in turn they try very hard and force themselves into perfection.
This doesn’t mean you will never feel or experience things that will make you feel bad. Of course you will, because you are still having a human experience. And that’s fine, because this is also fine as it is. But your reactions and perceptions of everything will be mostly different. It will be filtered through the eyes of your True Self, and not through the state of fear, separation, conflict or incompleteness.
Although, this is a normal part of the human experience and some days will be better than others. A secure relationship is not void of conflicts, but navigating things from a different space. Emotions will no longer feel like something you constantly have to run away from, but something that you will feel more and more safe to process.
This love and oneness that you want to feel is always right there, but sometimes we are too busy justifying our reasons as to why things can’t manifest, and letting the state of fear take priority, to even notice it.
Once you truly accept this, there will be mutual love and respect, and a feeling of security will wash over you. What you’re really experiencing is your natural state of being. There will be no mind games or need to prove your value. There will be no chasing, neediness or desperation. You can certainly manifest a specific person from doing this, but it will be short lived and you will manifest hot and cold results. Because this state of mind comes from feeling separation and lack.
Choose a couple that you admire and think about them, a couple that you know has mutual love and respect for one another. Ponder over how they act, how they look at each other, and how they describe their relationship etc. There are no mind games involved here or need to chase each other. It is an effortless, free flowing exchange of love. A space to grow and evolve with one another. This doesn’t mean problems don’t arise, but it is solved with love. And when you know who you really are, solving becomes easy.
Disclaimer: Each situation is different. I believe while manifesting a specific person, the main priority should be to shift our own conditions, and to release any unhealthy attachments we have. Manifesting a relationship, or anything for that matter, should not compromise our mental health. And if you are beginning to feel this way, I highly urge seeking a good medical or psychological professional to help navigate what you are feeling, if possible. Sometimes it is also necessary to create distance and space between ourselves and the desire at first in order to cultivate feelings of security and safety, because hyperfocusing on a person can perpetuate unhealthy patterns.