When we come into these beautiful teachings, and we realize the Truth of it all, it’s easy at first to feel like you are battling with reality. With yourself, others, your past, the limiting beliefs and trauma etc. You may think there is so much to change or undo about a person, yourself, or even the relationships you are trying to manifest. In turn, this makes you conform yourself to the illusion, rather than seeing through the illusion. This includes the false sense of themselves and the false sense of yourself that you may be subtly falling for.
When you connect with your True Self, who you really are, you are automatically guided to see through the false self of others that you may have manifested. The only way to consistently experience the lovely versions of others in your reality, is to surrender what is false. It is only when we surrender what is false, that the Truth can be seen. You may wonder, but what is the Truth? The truth is that beautiful gift that has been given to you by God- the desired version of a person and a relationship you are wishing for. This is for every relationship, not just romantic.
The ultimate truth of others is in perfect alignment with the truth of who you really are. It is the infinite, limitless you with no restrictions and conditions, no facades or false concepts. It is boundless and not confided to one false image of a person that you may be holding on to. It is this truth that you have to allow to guide you in your everyday interactions with others. It is this truth that you have to bring yourself back to, when a question arises within you. Everyone is you pushed out. Which means every person in your reality is automatically infinite and limitless just as you are. Who they really are is also pure love.
This means that there is so much more to choose from, than the one version you are used to. Familiarity is a thing that we humans like to hold on to, including the familiar versions of a person. Hence why some might reaffirm that it is difficult to let go of old past stories of people. It may be difficult if you are still thinking that who that person is, is the person who wanted to hurt you, be mean to you, reject you etc. You are not only placing restrictions on them, but also on what you can/cannot accept and believe for yourself.
Therefore, you are not trusting in your God given abilities, you are not trusting in yourself. You are denying yourself your birthright to experience the endless love, respect, and all of the other lovely things that a person can give you. But until you accept that you are capable of releasing old versions of people, of only seeing and experiencing the lovely versions of others, it will not be a consistent thing for you. Self concept to me equates to self confidence. Confidence in who I really am, in my birthright to manifest whatever I desire. I persist for the desire, but I mostly persist to give myself the gift of experiencing peace, freedom and relief, of all that I am truly holding within me. A natural byproduct of this is that your desires manifest effortlessly and people reflect this back to you. I know that if I persist to give myself something I know I deserve, it will be easy to naturally persist in my new stories of others.
This process is not necessarily an easy one. Those that persist despite all odds, are those that manifest the most consistent results. But remember that persistence is not a chore or a task. Like I’ve written above, persistence is for you. So that you don’t have to live your life with restrictions on what stories you can or cannot accept. It’s so that you never have to feel like you are battling old versions of people any longer, including old versions of yourself. It may seem like hard work at first, but it truly is a temporary discomfort for long lasting peace and relief.
You may think, “But it is so difficult. I am continuously trying with no results.” I am not denying that it will feel difficult and hard at first, it certainly was for me. However, manifestation is not a process of trying, getting what you want, and then going back to your old way of living life. As Neville says, it’s a radical shift in consciousness. If you are trying hard, you are already seeing manifesting relationships (or anything for that matter), as something that is outside of you. Something that you are trying to attain on the outside. It also means you are still accepting that your person is confined to one version. But that one version is simply one, just one, of so many you can choose from. It’s a conscious choice. This type of perspective will certainly make this process feel longer than expected.
You carry the entire universe within you. You can’t try to manifest something or someone that is already a part of you. You can only embody a new reality where you are different, simply because you want to gift yourself that experience of manifesting the true and lovely versions of others in your reality. Simply because you have that choice available to you. Not because that choice is something that you receive only if you are perfect. Manifestation is not a reward or a punishment, it is your birthright.
Embodiment is living your everyday life, leaning back into your power. It’s when you remind yourself of what is already within you, of the truth of the lovely versions of others being the only real thing. Then, you let this understanding direct and guide you, regardless of what your comfortable and fearful thoughts try to bring you back to. When you connect with your true self, by simply reminding yourself of it, you automatically enter a state of awareness where you only see everything from the perception of “it’s already done”. You don’t give energy or effort to the unlovely version by reacting to it or questioning it, you don’t wonder what is the right way to text them back, because you are aware that what you see in front of you is not the only version of them that exists. It’s not their true version.
Manifestation is not that you place your life on standby while waiting for something to happen. It should be that you are planning your life with your manifestation already included in it, because it’s already done.
I have accepted that manifesting specific people into my life is the easiest thing for me, that lovely versions of people showing up is a normality for me. Belief is a conscious choice. It is not something that only certain people are born with, nothing is ever deeply ingrained within you, unless you decide to accept that for yourself. As stated above, I consciously chose beliefs that I know would serve me in my life, because I did not want to place restrictions on my God given abilities. Because that in itself is a false concept, since we are all limitless and there is no end to what we are, to what we can have.
About a few months ago, I was thinking of an old friend of mine. I had met her in elementary school and we remained friends for a long time after that. Once we both went off to college, we drifted apart. I had deactivated a lot of my social media at that point, so I “lost” contact with a lot of my friends, including this one specific friend. A few months ago, a desire came upon me to reconnect with her. I missed our friendship. I remembered that I actually still had her on instagram, but our last conversation was in 2016. Not only that, but she hadn’t been active on there since 2016. I knew that by having a desire, it meant that it was already done, that my only job was to accept it as a done deal. So that’s exactly what I did, I expressed gratitude for our friendship once again. If I ever thought of her, I reminded myself it was a done deal. A few days later, I received a message from her on instagram, stating that she had been thinking about me and she reactivated her account just to speak to me. Now she’s active on there every day, our friendship has rekindled, and she is back into my life as if she never left.
I share this success story for a few reasons. I want to portray how simple manifesting people back into your life is, despite the circumstances. When a desire comes upon you, your only job is to accept it’s a done deal, knowing that because you have a desire, the means and ways have already been made. However, the degree to which you accept something as a done deal is solely dependent upon your self concept and your state of being. I am easily able to accept things as a done deal because I have confidence in my True Self. I also want to portray how I did not have to take any action on my part, beside accepting it’s a done deal. I could have done many different things to try to reach her, but as I stated above, I already carried that reality within me where our friendship had rekindled. By expressing gratitude for it, I was embodying it. I was simply choosing to express something in a physical form, because it is a choice available to me.
I have many such stories, where exes or past crushes have come back into my life after setting the intention that they would. I have managed to manifest my entire family to love manifesting, and to equally value it as much as I do. All of my personal relationships have been transformed. As stated above, when you do this, you are not waiting on standby. You live your life with the desire already manifested into it. Which means, there is no need to check your phone constantly, stalk people on social media etc., because that is waiting to see if anything happened. It is implying that the person or desire is something outside and separate from you. This comes from a lack of confidence in who you really are, which can certainly be changed if you change your self concept.
Don’t let the term ‘self concept’ confuse you. It can be narrowed down to two things, “Am I remembering who I really am and acting from that place? Or am I forgetting who I really am and acting from that place?”. In other words, am I being guided by fear all day? Do you accept stories that you know are not beneficial to you? Things such as, “I am bad at not reacting. The 3D is too hard for me. It is too difficult to believe.” Or do you drop stories that are like these, and choose ones that will actually benefit you?
Like I have reaffirmed in this article a lot, it’s a conscious choice. Of course it will take persistence. It won’t be easy and you will have days where you will forget. But I can assure you that those who manifest the most consistent results are those that persist no matter what life throws at them. We don’t only see this in conscious manifesting, but also in those who are the most successful in our world. It’s evident all around us that persisting is truly the key.
Many people are using self concept as a tool to get them to a desire. But it isn’t, it is a change in your world view, in what you accept for yourself. In the beginning I used to persist for my desires only. Now, I persist for myself. I truly believe that persisting, changing your self concept, and anything in regards to manifesting, should always be done for yourself. All of the energy, hard work and effort that you have been spending on manifesting others, or anything for that matter, should all be turned around towards yourself. It is so that you no longer have to feel like you are wavering, so that you can feel fulfilled no matter what desire comes upon you, because you are already ahead of the game.
When you do this, no matter what desire comes upon you, you will be able to immediately begin with the conviction of it being done. Do it for yourself because you know you are worthy and deserving of having the life you desire, with all of the beautiful manifestations in it. Too often people think that manifesting a specific version of a person is only when we are specifically thinking about the person, making intentions and visualizations for them etc. But this is furthest from the truth. Of course you should do this for your desires, but if you only construct the state and never occupy it, things will be delayed.
The moment you set the intention, that one time was enough. That greater power that we are knows exactly how to rearrange things for us in order for the desire to manifest. It isn’t up to our logical minds. It isn’t up to you to force yourself to believe or have faith. It isn’t up to you to force yourself to believe in a desire. All of those things come naturally. Your only job is to declare to yourself where you want to go next, who you want to be next, and what you want your life (and the people in it) to be like next. There is no future you waiting for you, it is dependent upon what you choose for yourself to be right in this moment, regardless if you feel it or believe it.
Trust me guys, they aren’t going anywhere. Your manifestations will not be missed if you turn the attention back on yourself. It won’t delay things. Quite the opposite actually. And this is what it means to be guided by love and not fear.
Practice looking at others, and see them from who they are under the human shell. Realize that underneath all of the unlovely words, the one word texts, the no communications, the rejection etc., is that pure true love that they are. And that truth is always waiting for you to access it. It is unchangeable. Make that focus a priority. Every day ask “how can I see the best versions of people today?”, rather than “why are they still like this?”.