My article will be about how I managed to transform my dad and my brother into loving people around me. Initially it was without Neville’s knowledge, but looking back I can see that I am God and how I brought it about.

I grew up in a household that was filled with psychological violence. My parents argued non-stop and as long as I can remember there were no loving moments between the two. My brother and I eventually adopted my parents’ behavior. He behaved like my father and told me how bad I was. I started feeling like a victim and like all people, especially men, were bad in my opinion.

If someone was good to me, I couldn’t accept it and always expected to lose loving people from my life. Guess what happened, I went through a separation at the time.

To make it clear again, my daily bread was “You can’t do it anyway, you do this and that wrong, you’re stupid, etc.” I was always accused of giving my parents and brother a bad life because, after all, I was always to blame. For decades I’ve struggled to change my brother and my dad. I argued with them and broke contact with them. I ended up doing everything I could, literally exhausting myself, and in the end I came to the conclusion that they were just as they are.

Then I realized that people aren’t always the same. When other people would tell me how great and loving my dad is, I usually thought that my dad was pretending to be so. But it wasn’t like that, he responded to other people’s expectations.

Everything changed for me and I could see how I was the trigger of everything. Everything came from me, every interpretation, every person’s behavior had all come from me. 

I apparently noticed subconsciously that I am God!

I have to say that I can hardly summarize what exactly I did. Only that I have recognized who I am and I do not have to put up with anything. Also that I do not need discussions to change people, because it literally only needs ME.  

As Neville said:

“Stop trying to change the world since it is only the mirror. Man’s attempt to change the world by force is as fruitless as breaking a mirror in the hope of changing his face. Leave the mirror and change your face. Leave the world alone and change your conceptions of yourself.” 

Neville Goddard

I began to see myself and others around me in a loving light. It was pointless to argue. I just let it flow, even if it took a month or two at the beginning in which the two still accused or insulted me.  

I neither visualized nor used any other technique because I didn’t know any of Neville’s teachings at the time.  

I changed and everything changed with me.

As soon as an argument came up, I took a deep breath and reminded myself that it was pointless to take part and that nothing could hurt me.

At that point, I didn’t care if my dad and brother changed, because I knew I had myself and I didn’t need more. I didn’t fight it any longer. Despite the incidents, my mood was always positive. I was fine no matter what happened and nobody could influence that. Today I see that I “ignored” my reality and stuck to who I was and how I would like to be treated by the people around me.

Suddenly out of nowhere, my dad said “I love you.” I have to admit that it was weird at first, but since I loved myself I could accept it and feel it.

And how is it now?

My dad and my brother adore me, they do everything for me without having to ask them. They have become so loving and such great people. I enjoy them every day. I always hear how great I am, I do everything well, that I am smart and beautiful. Arguments no longer exist.

And when something bad comes up, an apology comes immediately, although I don’t expect it. We love each other more than ever.

What do I do now since knowing of Neville?

I do nothing special. When I feel like it, I write “I AM statements” in a book in the evening and feel good about it.

• I AM Love 

• I AM loved


• I love myself

• Everything is working out

• Everyone loves me 

• etc..

Throughout the day I remember who I am and that there are no problems. 

Of course I ask myself questions, such as how am I responsible for everything like my parents’ behavior with each other or something similar. But then I remember that it is in my consciousness that my parents do not love each other, and then I have my answer to my question. 

“Man moves in a world that is nothing more or less than his consciousness objectified.“

Neville Goddard

It is important to mention that I do not force myself to do anything, neither to try out any techniques nor to understand any books from Neville. I think that the feelings of the wish fulfilled comes naturally with the understanding of who you really are.

All of my relationships are wonderful, whether at home, at work or with my friends. It doesn’t matter, everyone loves and appreciates me. Above all, I love myself more than ever because I know that I am God, I do everything right and everything is good.

“Man is always looking for some prop on which to lean. He is always looking for some excuse to justify failure. This revelation gives man no excuse for failure. His concept of himself is the cause of all the circumstances of his life. All changes must first come from within himself; and if he does not change on the outside it is because he has not changed within.”

Neville Goddard


About The Author

 “Krissi is a passionate woman with a message that she wants to spread around the world. She is an author and of course abundant in all the beautiful things in life.”


  • Lulu
    May 30, 2020 at 2:29 AM

    A simple yet eyeopening write up. I think some of us are just caught up ‘doing it right’ to get to our desire. But just as you said, all you need to know is you are god and love all in yourself.
    Thank you krissi ☺ grateful.

    • Krissi
      May 31, 2020 at 5:08 PM

      Hey Lulu, thank you very much for your kind feedback, I am glad that you enjoyed my article. Much Love <3

      • Sakshi Mahajan
        June 4, 2020 at 10:02 AM

        Hi Krissi, thank you for writing such a beautiful article ❤️

        • Krissi
          June 5, 2020 at 3:34 PM

          Hey Sakshi, thak you for your lovely comment <3

  • Kieron
    May 30, 2020 at 6:37 AM

    Thank you Krissi for such an inspiring post . I’m glad that you found happiness. I think that you were perhaps blessed in someway to have found the answer without , as you say , trying to find it . Many of us have spent years dipping in and out of this search for ‘enlightenment ‘ ,[ thankfully though I’ve had no family problems like yours ], and never really getting anywhere . Having found Neville’s teachings about a year ago I’ve realised that the problem has been in the ‘trying ‘ part of all this . I still have to watch myself at times, and to just let it flow naturally . This is why I love posts like yours which help to keep me grounded . As you say to do affirmations etc. when one feels like it rather than making fixed routines all the time . Thanks again , Kieron.

    • Krissi
      May 31, 2020 at 5:23 PM

      Hi Kieron, i am very happy about your dear comment. <3
      Sometimes when you have been through difficult times, you find the way without looking but you are forced to do so by life. At least that's how it was for me.
      And yes you are absolutely right, sometimes it is hard to just relax and let things flow, but it's worth it.
      I sincerely wish you all the best.
      Much Love <3

      • Sakshi Mahajan
        June 4, 2020 at 10:03 AM

        Hi Krissi, thank you for writing such a beautiful article ❤️

    • Atarah
      June 15, 2020 at 3:50 PM

      thanks. Feels like I’ve allowed myself to be in victim mode for the past few months and I was okay will the belief that the person is just toxic and is how he is. I’ve lost sight of what’s really going on.

      • Krissi
        June 30, 2020 at 3:28 PM

        Hey Atarah, thank you for your kind comment.
        You have done nothing wrong. I also do not change everyone. Sometimes I just leave some of them in the concept from the “past” but that´s ok. But if you WANT to change “him/her” you can do it anytime.
        Don´t stress about it. Much Love <3

  • Simona
    May 30, 2020 at 12:10 PM

    Amazing story!!! Thank you for sharing! When it comes to parents/siblings it can be pretty difficult to manifest a new version of them because you have a very long history with them. And I know that this statement is a limiting belief, but I find easier to change a friend/SP’s behavior. I struggle a lot with my mum and would be so happy to shift in a new state where she is more present and calm! Sometimes it’s easy to forget that we can apply Neville’s teaching to every single thing of our life! So thank you again 🙂

    • Krissi
      May 31, 2020 at 5:35 PM

      Hey Simona, thank you for your nice comment. Looking back it was not always easy but it was absolutely worth it. I know it sounds easier than it is but sit back and enjoy the process without thinking too much about it.
      If I did it, you can do it too, i am sure :))
      Much Love <3

  • Juli
    May 30, 2020 at 4:02 PM

    A great submission! Especially cause recently I have been feeling as though I have forced myself to do techniques and all they’ve left me with is with anxiety. It’s when I remind myself that I have always created in the past without any of them and gotten my desires simply by acknowledging that they were meant for me, that I begin to truly come into my True Self. Even those moments with anxiety are alright because at the end of the day they were telling me to just let things flow. I am God and I do not need to force things to be. They already have been created for me 🙂

    • Krissi
      May 31, 2020 at 5:48 PM

      Hello Juli, thank you for your great comment. I can understand you, sometimes you end up in stress if you worry too much. But as you said we manifested our entire lives without effort. There is so much love in life that you should enjoy without stress.
      Everything is right, no matter what you do 🙂
      Much Love <3

    • Bea
      June 2, 2020 at 4:04 PM

      This is beautiful, Krissi! Very well written. I’m glad you’re getting the treatment and love you deserve!

      • Krissi
        June 4, 2020 at 10:28 AM

        Hey Bea, thanks for your nice comment. I am very happy that you like my article. 🙂
        I wish the best for you. Much Love <3

  • Esther Isaiah
    May 31, 2020 at 2:39 AM

    Hi Krissi! Thank you for sharing your story, you made the process sound so simple and when I read it I felt a release within me to give up any more trying and truly only remind myself of who I really and keep to my IAM statements but never out of any force! ?

    • Krissi
      June 4, 2020 at 10:34 AM

      Hey Esther, thanks for your lovely comment. 🙂
      I am glad that my article inspired you.
      Much Love <3

  • Ashley
    May 31, 2020 at 6:29 PM

    This is such a wonderful post. I’m happy for you!

    • Krissi
      June 4, 2020 at 10:36 AM

      Hi Ashley, thanks for your sweet comment.
      Much love <3

  • Kieron
    June 6, 2020 at 5:09 AM

    Hi again Krissi . Thanks for your response to my comment earlier . I write this because I see that you make a point of replying to all who contact you . This is an admirable quality which I’m sure brings a smile to all . I know we’re not supposed to ”look for answers in the 3D world”, but it still helps when they arrive . All the best ,Kieron.

    • Krissi
      June 9, 2020 at 4:35 AM

      Hey Kieron, you´re welcome. <3
      I had hoped to put a smile on everyone's lips and I am very happy to receive such a nice comment from you.
      Since everyone is me pushed out I give what I want to get namely a bunch of LOVE :))
      Thanks again for your lovely comment I wish the best for you.
      Much Love <3

  • Xiinoh
    May 9, 2023 at 2:12 PM

    Hi Krissi

    Thank you so much for your nice article, Im in the same predicament regarding family especial a parent that seems to hate me and always fighting with me.

    I have tried all the resolutions but it has been so consistent over the years that even my self esteem is so low I accept everything, breadcrumbs from anyone because of my low self esteem.

    This is soo comforting because because of the history, I thought I could never seem to escape this and I tried taking mylife to be free from this.

    Thank you, this gives me hope.

  • Vincent
    March 17, 2024 at 12:43 PM

    So what is the practical advises for this?


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