Everyone Is You Pushed Out / Specific Person

Placing Your Specific Person On A Pedestal

Of course, you are pure and undeniable love- it’s the essence of who you really are. But does that mean your desire for love from another, is wrong?

There are millions of relationships all around us, from those who are unaware of the Law, and they are very fulfilled and happy. There are no rules, boundaries, or pedestals, that we are confined to. Desiring to be with a specific person, does not mean you are placing them too high on a pedestal. It does not mean only you can be on a pedestal, but they cannot, and only then can you manifest them back.

I find, that the desperation to want to be with a specific person, is not always due to a lack of self love, or not valuing yourself. It’s simply a lack of understanding who you really are, and how reality works. Someone can be filled with self love, but if they are not aware that their lover is just showing up how they expect them to, they might never change their assumptions, in regards to the things they want to improve in their relationship.

Your desire to be with a specific person, does not make you less of a God or Goddess. The desire to love, and be loved, to lean on someone, and have them lean on you, is a very valid desire. Missing a specific person, does not mean you are doing something wrong. I am sure you have that special person in your life- a friend, family, child, pet or spouse- that you miss, despite knowing that they will always be in your lives.

Your assumptions underneath these desires, will always be how things unfold for you. Some may equate missing to neediness, but this is far from the truth, when you open your heart to who you really are.

Missing and desiring, does not have to be equated to a lack of valuing yourself, or knowing that your manifestations are yours. It is because of this false presumption, is why some might feel bad for feeling the way they do, which in turn is actually counterproductive. This can create the feeling of doing something wrong, and taking action from a place of playing “mind games”.

Wanting affection from your lover, or wanting them to make the first move, does not mean you lack self love, or that you are less of a God/Goddess. These desires given to us by God, are neutral, and it is only us that filters them through beliefs and morals- “Don’t put him/her on the pedestal. Only you are supposed to be on the pedestal”.

My lover and I, are both on pedestals. When you know who you really are, and how reality works, you neither de-value yourself, another, or your desires. I love having someone I can depend on, and work through life with, learning and growing together. I love having someone I can cry to, and be there for me in the times I need them. Does this make me less of a Goddess?

I say, it shows my willingness to open myself up to a person, with my full awareness that the other person is myself pushed out. It shows trust in myself, and my understanding of who I really am. It shows my acceptance to experience life here as a human, with all its ups and downs.

If they are me pushed out, then my love for them, can also mean love for myself, since they are myself. It is when we are presented with false concepts, is when we start to believe that wanting or missing another, means we are lacking something within us.

When I was manifesting a previous ex from a few years ago, I thought I needed self-love. Or more so, I thought I lacked it, and so that’s why he left. When in actuality, it was that I didn’t know who I really am, and how reality truly works. Because I was tainted with these beliefs, and felt that my desire to want him, and missing him, was wrong, I started to love myself even less than before coming across these ideas. It was because I thought I wasn’t living up to “Goddess standards”.

Along the way, I understood what manifesting a specific person truly meant. If I am God, then I would never judge or deny my desires. I would never make myself feel bad for desiring or wanting or missing someone, or anything for that matter.

I don’t ever feel unfilled, when I miss my boyfriend. I equate this feeling with the naturalness of being in a relationship, experiencing life here. The only person that I ask for permission, is from myself, and so should you. Your feeling of naturalness and having, is completely unique.

Self love can also mean that you care to learn about how manifesting works, because you want a better life for yourself. It is when you desire to make this a lifestyle, and you go through life with this understanding, that desiring means to have. This alone is reason enough for me to never claim that I am lacking something within.

Your desires, each and every one of them, from God, are neutral, and should only be filtered through the eyes of understanding who you really are. Let’s never condemn another for a desire they have, but uplift and encourage them, that anything is possible. For you are God, so why would you see it any other way?

About Author

Jennifer is a freelance writer currently working on her first fiction novel. Living in the labyrinth of New York City, she has learnt to use the Law in every aspect of her life to awaken the Godself within her. Her aim is to spread this beautiful knowledge to others so they may also find peace and love within.


  • Debbie
    November 2, 2019 at 8:44 AM

    Excellent write up!

  • neera sharma
    November 2, 2019 at 9:22 AM

    awesome.. pure love!!

  • Cutiepie
    November 2, 2019 at 9:54 AM

    Magnificent as always!

  • Patty
    November 2, 2019 at 10:55 AM

    I love this article! I get the feeling that as I manifest a specific desire, what happens is that I see all of my filters such as my beliefs, assumptions, attitudes, thoughts, feelings, doubts, fears etc. that this particular desire brings forth in me. Each desire is a gift allowing me to clear away all of my false beliefs, identifications and attachments until I fully realize that I am God and everything is already mine. I agree that we should never condemn another for their desires because we don’t know their journey or the content of their consciousness. Thank you for another enlightening article.

    • SunnieDae
      November 3, 2019 at 4:11 AM

      Hey Patty! What a pleasant surprise to see you here as well! I haven’t seen your comments lately on YouTube… How is your book coming along?

      To the author of the post, thank you for a beautifully uplifting article!

  • Angel
    November 19, 2019 at 2:26 PM

    I love and have read all of your articles. You’re a true Angel. But I have a question. I understand fully how the law of assumption and my imagination works. Because I have used it countless times even now getting specific messages from my sp. I have never doubted loving myself (atleast consciously) I believe I’m pretty confident because I know I’m beautiful and look good. Never had problems meeting a guy or having them reach out it’s all natural. (Trying to give you an idea of me). Met my now BF April of this year and it’s been good and bad mostly bad because we fight all the time. Last fight brought me here because I broke up with him. After only realizing he’s just myself pushed out and everything I expected of him became my reality with how he acts etc. now Ive been reading your articles and Neville Goddards lectures and fully grasp the concept. After the last fight I deleted social media because I needed to stop stalking him and focusing on me. Worked for a bit until he messaged me and we started talking again. Only to add back my Instagram and see he followed a new girl in both accounts which he doesn’t follow without specific reasons. This made me real insecure, started having wild thoughts even tho I’m telling myself this cannot affect my reality. I’m trying to control my feelings and living in the end but it’s giving me some difficulty. I just need somebody to talk to. Can you help?

  • Vanessa
    December 1, 2019 at 10:07 AM

    I have experienced similar things Angel even today I was dwelling on shadows: live in your end…prove your faith…I lost mine the last few days…I’m giving myself this whole month now to trust completely in God in me, be present in my marriage, express love every day and not try to make things happen.

  • Ukobasi maryann
    March 29, 2020 at 8:33 PM

    I love this articles

  • Kellie
    April 1, 2020 at 9:54 AM

    Thank you SO MUCH for this article! I have always felt uneasy about the whole self-love topic as most of the time it seems to come across in a very arrogant & condescending way. The very opposite of what I feel is the true nature of God. When I think of how I want to feel towards myself & others, I want my love to feel enveloping, gentle, kind, & nonjudgmental in all ways. I want my love for ALL people & things to be 100% unconditional. If everyone is me pushed out, then in order for me to receive unconditional love from them I must be in a place where I am able to project that. And the only way to project that is by fully understand who I AM. Thank you for putting into words what I could not distill from my own thoughts & feelings about why I felt such resistance to the typical concept of self-love. It is so very helpful!!

  • Gowri
    August 7, 2020 at 6:22 AM

    this is PERFECT!

  • Anwesha Paul
    December 6, 2020 at 9:16 AM

    Actually everyone has a different meaning of self love, but it is true that if you give someone else too much importance more than your self then the scale is tilted. Often when we put someone on a pedestal means we are not on one, since we are creating this universe, it is important to embody and feel the love, confidence, security within ourselves first and only then it will be reflected

  • N.
    March 18, 2021 at 4:32 PM

    I Always love your writing! For myself and many it is about being United physically with someone we do not personally know or haven’t gotten to meet or speak to yet,. I have this deeply for someone that I haven’t met yet, but know is a part of me fully. They complete me and make me feel naturally whole from the moment I first saw them. They are someone who actually exists and that I follow, but we are not acquainted presently yet in the delayed 3D, only in my imagination (true reality). I would love to read something from you strictly on this subject. Not getting someone back, or fixing a relationship, but getting to be with someone we know of, but have not yet met or been in contact with. Thanks in advance and Thanks again Jennifer, you are a blessing.

  • Mady
    October 17, 2021 at 9:13 PM

    Amen to that! Well said…..Thank you for saying outloud what I have always felt in my heart.


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