Of course, you are pure and undeniable love- it’s the essence of who you really are. But does that mean your desire for love from another, is wrong?
There are millions of relationships all around us, from those who are unaware of the Law, and they are very fulfilled and happy. There are no rules, boundaries, or pedestals, that we are confined to. Desiring to be with a specific person, does not mean you are placing them too high on a pedestal. It does not mean only you can be on a pedestal, but they cannot, and only then can you manifest them back.
I find, that the desperation to want to be with a specific person, is not always due to a lack of self love, or not valuing yourself. It’s simply a lack of understanding who you really are, and how reality works. Someone can be filled with self love, but if they are not aware that their lover is just showing up how they expect them to, they might never change their assumptions, in regards to the things they want to improve in their relationship.
Your desire to be with a specific person, does not make you less of a God or Goddess. The desire to love, and be loved, to lean on someone, and have them lean on you, is a very valid desire. Missing a specific person, does not mean you are doing something wrong. I am sure you have that special person in your life- a friend, family, child, pet or spouse- that you miss, despite knowing that they will always be in your lives.
Your assumptions underneath these desires, will always be how things unfold for you. Some may equate missing to neediness, but this is far from the truth, when you open your heart to who you really are.
Missing and desiring, does not have to be equated to a lack of valuing yourself, or knowing that your manifestations are yours. It is because of this false presumption, is why some might feel bad for feeling the way they do, which in turn is actually counterproductive. This can create the feeling of doing something wrong, and taking action from a place of playing “mind games”.
Wanting affection from your lover, or wanting them to make the first move, does not mean you lack self love, or that you are less of a God/Goddess. These desires given to us by God, are neutral, and it is only us that filters them through beliefs and morals- “Don’t put him/her on the pedestal. Only you are supposed to be on the pedestal”.
My lover and I, are both on pedestals. When you know who you really are, and how reality works, you neither de-value yourself, another, or your desires. I love having someone I can depend on, and work through life with, learning and growing together. I love having someone I can cry to, and be there for me in the times I need them. Does this make me less of a Goddess?
I say, it shows my willingness to open myself up to a person, with my full awareness that the other person is myself pushed out. It shows trust in myself, and my understanding of who I really am. It shows my acceptance to experience life here as a human, with all its ups and downs.
If they are me pushed out, then my love for them, can also mean love for myself, since they are myself. It is when we are presented with false concepts, is when we start to believe that wanting or missing another, means we are lacking something within us.
When I was manifesting a previous ex from a few years ago, I thought I needed self-love. Or more so, I thought I lacked it, and so that’s why he left. When in actuality, it was that I didn’t know who I really am, and how reality truly works. Because I was tainted with these beliefs, and felt that my desire to want him, and missing him, was wrong, I started to love myself even less than before coming across these ideas. It was because I thought I wasn’t living up to “Goddess standards”.
Along the way, I understood what manifesting a specific person truly meant. If I am God, then I would never judge or deny my desires. I would never make myself feel bad for desiring or wanting or missing someone, or anything for that matter.
I don’t ever feel unfilled, when I miss my boyfriend. I equate this feeling with the naturalness of being in a relationship, experiencing life here. The only person that I ask for permission, is from myself, and so should you. Your feeling of naturalness and having, is completely unique.
Self love can also mean that you care to learn about how manifesting works, because you want a better life for yourself. It is when you desire to make this a lifestyle, and you go through life with this understanding, that desiring means to have. This alone is reason enough for me to never claim that I am lacking something within.
Your desires, each and every one of them, from God, are neutral, and should only be filtered through the eyes of understanding who you really are. Let’s never condemn another for a desire they have, but uplift and encourage them, that anything is possible. For you are God, so why would you see it any other way?