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Practicing Ease: How to Let Go of the “How” and “When”

“Every conception has its own appointed hour; it ripens, it will flower. If it seems to you long, then wait. It is sure; it will not be late relative to its own nature. Don’t think for one moment in the world as we know it and as we are, that you are going to think it now and then force ripening. Leave it – it will come as you wish in its own full time. Don’t be anxious or concerned as to results. They will follow just as surely as day follows night.”

Neville Goddard

Lofty aspirations. Big dreams. Chasing your goals. Getting things done. Being an “ambitious person”. Do any of these resonate with you?

When you are goal-orientated, living in the end and allowing our desires to manifest can often leave us frustrated — we want results, and we want them now! We want to know the what, where, when and how of our desires. And most of all, we find it hard to separate ourselves from the cultural conditioning that says we have to work hard to achieve what we want in our lives.

For most of my life I too subscribed to the belief that hard work equals success, that we must struggle to get what we want. At least in Western culture, we’re taught that struggle is to be worn like a badge of honour — that struggle precedes success. Social media reinforces these beliefs. “Look what you could get if only you worked as hard as this” it says to us. However, none of this is true. The key is knowing how to overcome resistance and manifest with ease.

I truly believe that success, that achieving our goals, is best done when we are at ease. It doesn’t matter if we go to the gym everyday or study for four hours every night — if we do this from a place of lack or overwhelm, sooner or later we’ll burn out.  Sometimes we even martyr ourselves by working several jobs that we don’t enjoy in order to afford the life we always wanted, leaving no time to actually pursue a passion that is rewarding and brings us joy. And even when we do achieve what we want, we find ourselves still stuck in the mindset of striving, of needing more.

You see, there is a difference in inspired action and the kind of action we take out of pressure to get something done or to make it happen faster. Inspired action comes from within, and it feels more like something we want to do rather than something we think we should do. Neville describes inspired action as follows:

That motion in mind would compel a physical motion to correspond to it; and you will awake to find the whole thing is changed. The whole structure of your world has changed, your plans have changed; and it will compel that physical journey. And you will walk across a bridge of incident―some series of events that you do not consciously plan. You will be compelled to make the journey.

Neville Goddard

When we do things based on should, we are often guided by a false sense of urgency, and as a result we will do things that actually don’t push us closer to our goals but actually further away, because our attention is so scattered. We already know there are many successful millionaires or famous people who have great material wealth yet still feel deeply unhappy and unfulfilled. When we practice manifesting with ease, we gain a kind of wealth that is richer than money.

When you stop being pressured by what you should do and let your intuition guide you, you’ll be surprised at the choices you actually make. I have found that the best decisions I ever made in my life have been ones that simply came to me when I was at ease — they weren’t forced or mulled over. In fact, I have found that the decisions that have the power to really change your life nearly always come in this subtle and quiet way.

Whether you want to buy a house or climb the ladder in your career, you don’t need to strive to make your goal a reality. Why? Because it already is! When you remember that creation is already finished, you also realise that this reality is already within you

Living in Ease

So drop the how and the resistance surrounding your goal and go straight to the end. Visualise it the way that Neville said: 

You will find it first in your imagination. That’s where you find it. And then you clothe it with the tones of reality, and you clothe it with all the sensory vividness that you can give that image.

Neville Goddard

Then, accept this as truth. You already have your goal. You don’t need to worry about when or why, because you already have it. Any inspired action you take as a result comes from a place of already knowing it is yours. This is being at ease.

Being at ease takes practice. Sometimes we don’t even know what it feels like to be at ease in our own bodies. This is why meditation and visualisation are such a powerful tools – they teach us how to connect with ourselves and how to relax. During difficult moments, we can put ourselves back into a state of ease by paying attention to our bodies and our breath the way we do when sat in extended meditation. This way, everything becomes meditative; meditation isn’t just something we do on a cushion, but a state we dwell in throughout the day. When doubts or resistance arise — thoughts that contradict our state of living in the end —we simply let them go the the way we do in meditation.

Practice ease first when you are doing something you enjoy, like soaking in the bath or taking a walk. It’s easy to feel at ease doing something like this. Then, practice ease when doing things that are less enjoyable, like washing dishes or folding laundry. After this, move on to practicing ease when in a crisis or under stress. This way, we realise that any time we perceive hardship or struggle in our lives, we are simply telling ourselves a story that it has to be difficult to get what we want. When we live in the end however, we know that the nuances of everyday life don’t need to affect us at all.

How does it feel to drop the story that it has to be hard to get what we want? How does it feel, instead, to realise that everything we want is already ours, and comes to us freely and easily?

We can read as many books and lectures as we want, but until we practice truly living in the end and being at ease in the feeling of our wish fulfilled, we won’t see any transformations in our external reality, and we will still experience resistance and overwhelm when pursuing our goals. If we’re not at ease, achieving our goals won’t even feeling like an achievement, because we will always be striving for what’s next. When we’re at ease we can be grateful for what we have as well as being in a natural state of abundance. 

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Kriston is a filmmaker and designer interested in the blurring of art, imagination, and everyday life.


  • Mary

    Hi there,

    This article resonates so much with me. That little big word of SHOULD is such an old story of mine that I feel constantly burned out. I start to realize that there is no need for should because I am the creator of my world. I make the rules. The should comes from the outside – parents, friends, bosses and society tell us what we should. If we change that on the inside – nobody can ever tell us again, what we should.

    This minute I feel so damn grateful for all the events that led me into this community. I remember who I am and how my life really looks like.

    Thank you so much for sharing your love

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