Success Stories

Manifesting A Specific Person & Changing Their Behavior

This is my success story on how I manifested a specific person, and how I was able to completely, and I mean COMPLETELY, change his behaviors in less than 6 months. I also want to preface this by stating that I could’ve manifested this change, much quicker, had I been more consistent with my self-love and Neville’s teachings, and did it for the right reasons. However, I was quite hot and cold with everything, hence why I attracted a hot and cold relationship. Once I decided I would really dedicate myself to this, it only took 3 weeks.

In October of 2018 we met while working together at JFK airport. Our workplace is important because it plays a huge role in our relationship. I had been saying self love affirmations before meeting him as a way to boost my self confidence, having been working around so many people. I had absolutely no intention of finding a boyfriend anytime soon. But the affirmations were obviously working, hence why I attracted my SP.

Fast forward about 2 weeks into our “relationship”. I stopped working on my self love and things started going downhill really FAST. I suddenly became very clingy and also paranoid that he was with other girls or looking at other girls at the workplace. I started accusing him of things constantly, and we were always arguing. I would always listen to his problems and give him advice. I would buy him small gifts and stay back after work to see him when I got off early. Yet when he got off of work early, he never stayed back to see me. He didn’t reciprocate these things. I also started realizing how he refused to take me on a date. Whenever I mentioned it, he would either casually change the conversation or tell me he “wanted to get to know me first”, (just at work or through texting, but never on a date).

I eventually confronted him about it and he asked for us to take a break so he could figure things out. This was a month into our “relationship” by the way. It was at this point that I came to my sister for help and that is when she introduced me to Neville Goddard and Agnes Vivarelli, who is a follower of Neville, and emphasizes the importance of self love when in a relationship.

I hadn’t fully understood Neville’s teachings, so I stuck to only listening to self love meditations, mostly with the goal to get my specific person back. About a few days after our break, he texted me and we “got back together”. I stopped working on myself again and things started getting worse a week later. I had a friend who was a supervisor, who actually got me the job, and who worked for the same company as my SP and I. Him and my SP apparently knew one another, but didn’t like each other due to some strange love triangle between the two of them, and my SP’s ex girlfriend falling for my friend about a year prior to me entering the picture.

My supervisor friend basically explained to me how my SP cheated on his ex girlfriend even though my SP told me it was the other way around. I confronted him that same evening and I asked him to be honest with me, in which he said “I don’t want a relationship with you”. He also confessed to still having feelings for his ex girlfriend, and implied that he turned to me for comfort to distract himself from her, essentially as a rebound.

I was extremely heartbroken, but he said he still wanted a chance in the future to be serious with me, so we decided to go on another break. If things didn’t seem bad enough, we still had to see each other at work. On top of that, other coworkers that I had never even seen in my time working there, had been popping up left and right, telling me about my person’s reputation at the airport. They told me stories about him wooing all the new girls, only for him to drop their pants and leave them. Everywhere I looked, everywhere I turned, everyone was telling me to stay away from my SP. My SP himself told me that he was “no good for me”.

At this time I was just starting to get into Neville’s teachings, and so I worked my hardest at ignoring my outside senses. I started working on my self-love again, but, this time I was doing it with the intention to love myself. I told myself that I deserve this. That I at least owe it to myself to love all of me for ME, not for anyone else. Surely enough, after a week we started talking again, however we weren’t back together. We continued to talk as friends and I continued to work on myself.

Things started popping up AGAIN that was contradicting my desire. The same supervisor friend from work, told me that my SP had a different girlfriend before we met and I wasn’t sure if he was still with her. I confronted him about it and he said it was over between them. At this time my SP also got fired from his job and now there was no way of me being able to see him. During the last week of November, while talking to him on the phone, he mentioned he was going on a vacation to Fiji for two weeks, in early December, with another girl.

I made the intention that he wasn’t going to Fiji because I said so. I also want to note that during this time, I started to familiarize myself with Neville’s revision technique, as well as with the concept of everyone is you pushed out. After our phone call, I cut him off completely for 3 weeks. I assured myself that he wasn’t going on a trip with another girl, and only focused on working on myself, and living in the end of having an amazing relationship with him.

During this period I avoided social media, but my supervisor friend decided to show me my SP’s Instagram. He showed me a recent picture posted by my SP, with the “new” girlfriend that he said he was no longer with, months before we met. I was furious, but despite that, I ignored it and continued to persist. I revised seeing the picture without the girl in it, and that it was just him.

About three weeks after our heated phone call, I felt inspired to text him. That’s when things between us started to completely shift. I affirmed that “I AM deeply missed” and he told me how much he missed me. He finally asked me to be his girlfriend, and wanted a commitment, and he finally asked me to go on a date. He admitted to not going to Fiji after all. I asked him about the photo from Instagram and he apologized and took it down.

My revision worked! Fast forward to January, and he started to become more affectionate and romantic towards me. We were calling each other cute pet names, and sending each other romantic text messages (yes, with those cute emojis LOL). It is now early April, and he is absolutely head over heels, madly in love with me. I know for a fact that I’m the only girl in his life. People, like my supervisor friend, and others who used to reflect the part of me that doubted my SP’s faithfulness, have completely left my life and I’m more than okay with that.

I get texts after texts, saying things like “I miss you baby”, “I need my girlfriend”, “I love you baby” etc. In fact, this morning at exactly 1:43 am, I received a text message saying “I miss you”. He’s mentioned wanting a future with me and says how cute it would be for us to have a baby together. He’s says things like “I want you and only you”. I affirmed that he always wants to make sure I’m okay and literally two minutes later, I get a text saying “it’s okay babe are you okay?”. I affirmed that he is so understanding, and I get a text a half hour later saying “It’s okay babe I understand.” I affirmed “I AM craved”, then I get a text saying “I’m always craving you”.

When we first met he was quite the club goer and he drank an awful lot. He would even call me at midnight drunk while driving, having just come out of the club. I obviously hated that with a passion, so I decided to affirm that he no longer goes to clubs and he rarely, if ever, drinks. Since affirming that, he hasn’t gone to a single club, since New Years, and to my knowledge he hasn’t been drinking. He has only been focused on work and bettering our relationship.

Although everyone has their own techniques that work for them, affirmations have worked WONDERS for me. I also want to mention that I rarely, if ever, visualized. I mostly just used I AM affirmations followed by whatever I wanted to hear. Working on my self love and changing my core beliefs was my way of changing my concept of myself. Neville stresses the importance of changing the concept of oneself because everyone is YOU pushed out. So you MUST change yourself and not the other person. Otherwise, it’ll be a temporary fix to a deep seeded issue that must be fixed by looking within.

I had all the odds stacked against me time and time again, but I kept pushing no matter how exhausted I was. I didn’t want to give up on my relationship, even though it was tempting at times to just drop him and move on with someone else.

I want to make sure that everyone knows how important, ignoring your outside senses are. I repeat YOU MUST IGNORE. I know how hard it is and how exhausted you are. I know that at times you just want to give up, especially when you see people in such amazing relationships that you desperately want to have with your SP. But Neville says to PERSIST, PERSIST, PERSIST!I’ve completely changed my SP and my relationship, and we’re just getting started. I am optimistic for our future together and I hope every single one of you get to the place that I am in now, by realizing the power you have within you.

I did not go searching for success stories online. I did not spend hours (or even minutes), watching YouTube videos on “How To Manifest Your EX Back”. I didn’t vent on social media. I didn’t vent to anyone. I didn’t stalk him on social media. I didn’t look for new techniques or wondered if I was doing something wrong. I just let go of resistance and lived my life. I lived completely in the end. When you are actually living in the end, you wouldn’t feel the need to do those things anymore. Because you know your person is already yours. When you do these things, when you click on those videos, etc., you are actually accepting and acknowledging that you have an ex or that there is a third party. If doubts came up, or if I felt like I was “checking” for texts, I simply re-affirmed my affirmations or watched a funny video. My affirmations mostly focused on changing my concept of myself, and loving who I really am.

I also want to note, DO NOT micromanage. Forget about attracting a text or a phone call. GO STRAIGHT TO THE END ONLY. A text message doesn’t guarantee a healthy, long lasting, faithful relationship. But if you imagine yourself in a loving relationship with your specific person– the texts, phone calls and dates will naturally follow. So many people have had success and you CAN NOT, and WILL NOT be the exception. Please remember that. I wish you all the best with your relationships and I hope you all find the love and happiness you deserve.

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  • Myra floofles

    This is actually SO inspiring. I used to always mainly focus on manifesting a text from him, but now I know I don’t really need to do that. I also had positive AND negative thought and I always felt it was creating resistance, so for a while I didn’t focus on him. I’ve been working really hard on self love and so far its been great. I know my SP and I will get back together because even when I’m not trying to visualize, random thoughts of him pop up into my head. I remember being at a rave and having fun when all of a sudden it felt as if we were there together dancing and it made me really happy because he has always been a raver. I’d also imagine him next to me while I’m playing video games, etc. I know everything will flow into place soon.

  • Babs Rambold

    Jessica, great job! I’d love to talk to you more about how you phrased your intentions!
    And how did you live off the end of a ‘healthy, long lasting and faithful’ relationship? I visualize a lot. But I’m wondering how you did it without!

    • Jennifer Ramdeo

      Ivy, the Law is applicable in every single area of your life. This is your world, your reality and you create the rules. No matter how solid or real it seems, what someone else says or does, you have the power to change the circumstances.

      • ivy

        Thank you so much for replying Jen. I have re read your story for a number of times. But still I don’t know what to do exactly now. Just wait? I have stopped reaching out.

        • Jennifer Ramdeo

          This is not my story, it’s by Jess. I did mentor her throughout the whole journey. But it was all her with her constant persistence and belief. You need to plant the seed within you. Assume you are already in that loving relationship with him. Change your concept of yourself (Jess used self love affirmations for this, but make sure you are doing it for yourself. Since YOU are the one being changed here, not the other person. They are simply reflecting you). And then you need to let go and walk in blind faith that this is already yours. All of your actions, thoughts, etc., should come FROM the wish fulfilled and not OF it. Persistance is the key 🙂 Good luck!

          • ivy

            Opps sorry, my bad. You do mentoring too? 🙂

            Thank you in advance. It’s really challenging to manifest a SP back despite people say it is just like manifesting a cup of coffee. Personally, it way complicated than that lol.

            I never stop believing I am and only his one woman in his life, whom he loves and adores. But honestly, I want to know too how this things unfold. And a big congrats to Jess that she finally get what she wanted.

          • S

            Hi Jennifer,
            I love your advice. Just one clarification I need. Yes, I know we need to change US not them. Do you do that by self love affirmations or mix of self love and intentions for the SP. In other words, intentions for SP also comes from knowing we can have, do be anything, so that’s changing our beliefs and hence “changing the inner US”, is that correct? Thanks a lot,


          • Jennifer Ramdeo

            Hi S! First off, thank you for reading our website and for your sweet comment.I truly appreciate it. Intentions, affirmations, whatever you want to call it, all goes hand in hand with mental diet. Once you clean up your mental diet, and change the story you feed to yourself daily, you will shift into a state of being where you start believing in this new story and the new things you have been telling yourself. The most important part is to persist and do not give up. I hope this answered your question! And sorry for the late reply <3

      • Richy

        Is it normal to experience negative feelings or unwanted thoughts during this process? Particularly ones that are intrusive or make you feel “sad” or like you should give up? I am immediately counteracting them with positive affirmations as I am not giving up. It isn’t an option. I also have a hard time visualizing my end goal. As I do not hold pictures in my head well. So when I meditate or anything I try and feel it though my heart and energy. Along the lines of sending love to my SP. I really think this is just resistance and a sign to keep going! Thank you in advance for the input back! Any advice is greatly appreciated. I read affirmation cards daily and meditate twice a day and journal gratitude. It has helped me feel a lot better and feel more confident. I am all believing and already accepting what I want the best I can everyday. I know it’s here. And I’m thankful.

  • JH

    Wow, just wow. This post is exactly what I needed today. Thank-you so much for sharing. I am experiencing a lot of physical, solid evidence of my SP choosing someone else (as in he’s now with her), and now I’m prepared to ignore it. I am first best.

  • Laure

    Hi Jennifer,
    Great story.
    I was wondering if you do coaching. I am in the exact situation but I can’t discuss it with friends so would be nice to find someone to remind me that I am in Barbedos.

    • Jennifer Ramdeo

      Hi Laure! Yes I do coaching. If you go to the top of our website, you will see an option for coaching. Fill out the form and I will email you back with the details! 🙂 xx

    • iqra

      hi i saw this and it immediately made me feel better. i’ve been manifesting my so person back for 3 months now after not speaking to each other. it was an on and off thing for three years and things ended badly. i feel like how it ended shows me that it is over for good and no way to fixed it. started doing low near the ends of january but sometimes i lose hope when nothing is happening. i try to change my thoughts and do what others say to do for it to manifest i feel like. i get negative things happening instead nothing to bad but just to show me that he wants nothing to do with me. i don’t want to meet a new person when i desire him and wish to fix things. he is a jehovah witness which makes things harder for me. can i get some advice?

      • San

        Hi Jenifer
        This is a real inspiring story. Thanks for sharing. But what if I have to meet and see him every day. Living in the end gets a little difficult here. Ignoring reality becomes hard. Kindly help.

        • Vishal Nair

          You said when you stopped affirmations he’d lose interest in you, so do we have to keep affirming for lifetime while others having a beautiful relationship without any of these thing?

  • Lewis

    I loved reading this, what a fantastic story! I’ve been having ‘doubts’ that have led to my wanting to manifest a text or something, mainly to prove that I can, as we’re almost at the point of 2 years with no contact.

    I agree on the social media, the YT videos and everything else. I’ve finally stepped away from all of that, just in the last day or so. I read Neville daily and I’m really beginning to understand and embody what he teaches, which is really exciting!

  • Vibrators

    Affirm your belief in your soulmate. While you’ve already worked hard to combat limiting beliefs and create a clear image of the person you want to be with, you make it easier for the Universe to send that person your way if you constantly stay connected to your belief that they exist. Try daily affirmations (written or spoken) like “I am looking for love, and my soulmate is on their way to me”. Plus, “Nothing will stop me from receiving the love of my soulmate.”

  • s

    Hi Jess,
    Thanks for sharing, great story. What was your mental diet like? Was it all self love or were there intentions for him to? Thanks,


  • Jonathan

    when doing affirmations you would use “not” for ex” he did not go to fiji”
    I’ve heard that using such words actually dont exist in the universe and the universe would pick up everything and ignore specific wording. would you agree with this?
    I would like to manifest my SP staying in nyc this summer and not going away, i’m also looking to change her behavior so this was very helpful.
    thank you.

  • Tommy

    Is there anyone that actually had this work for them besides the author? In situations where the other person was absolutely sure they don’t want to be with you anymore, there is a third party or something similar that is concrete evidence this could not have happened just because they changed their mind or were no longer hot/ cold? I’m fighting depression and suicidal tendencies I want nothing more then my so back.. but everyone around me is constantly pointing out that there is no such thing as god or that if there is a god he wouldn’t help with this.. I think my question is how can I know this is not just preying on the weak who have lost their love? I’m not trying to be a naysayer I’m just lost and trying to find answers and evidence.. thank you

    • R5

      @ Tommy, OK, As an outsider, I already see the problem in your manifestation. There can not be desparation in you wanting someone back. you have to live your life, feel good ( living as if) and then things will start to move. I am in the processes of attracting my SP back. I did attract a text ( but then I tried to manage the middle way too much) and the whole thing back fired.

      The key to my manifestations… and I manifested a job with the UN….. Which seemed impossible! Was to set the the intention, and bloody forget about it. Its not easy when it comes to a person…. you need a good mental diet ( when doubts pop into your head, you need to change them to positives and then go about you life) Sometimes I do think just giving up helps release the resistence.

  • Angel

    THIS is hands down one of the best most impressive and most encouraging uplifting inspiring success stories I have EVER read!!!! You should put this on as many platforms and in as many FB groups etc. As possible!!!!!!

  • Soul

    I like your story congratulation but just one part I could not resonate with. That you were the one who was inspired to initiate contact and sent message to open channel of communication.

    Despite how much I want my EX back but she was the one who broke up. it has to be her idea to get back together.
    one day I will send my story with success.


  • Rachel

    This is so inspiring! I know I can also do it, I feel like I do love myself, but I can’t totally because my manifestation isn’t happening! I need to continue with self love and stop obsessing on what i want, i think? Mental diet, no social media and focus just on me?

  • Tina Greenfield

    Hi Jessica

    That manifestation was simply amazing working against all obstacles.

    I have more obstacles can this technique work for me or not. My specific is a serious playboy.

    Many thanks


  • Stefanie

    OMG, this is so my Story…i was in a really good place when i met him and he was really attracted to me..but then i topped working on myself and was clingy and had always the Feeling he was texting with other girls etc…i was so insecure..i did so much for him but he did nothing for me..we separeted, i manifested him back but i wasn’t consistant and the same thing happend again…now i take a break, concenrate on finding myself and will give it another try with your tips…thank you

    sry for the english, i am from Germany 🙂

  • John

    Great story Jessica, I am wondering how to you change somones behavior? You said your bf use to club a lot so how does affirmations change the behavior? Please if anyone has any input on this let me know. I’m trying to change my gfs behavior of going to raves a lot and doing drugs often.

  • Jessica

    Holy heck!!! Your name is Jessica and my name is Jessica too! 🙂 It’s crazy because in some ways I can relate to your story. Thanks for the encouragement! Would be even crazier if your SP was the same as my SP. lol let’s just “assume” it is. 😉

  • Michael Heath

    I struggle morally with this. Maybe I don’t see the bigger meta picture so what I’m going to say is a non-starter. But where are the morals in kinda ‘programming’ an SP. You don’t like this, change it. You want more of that, get it. You own him then like a pet or a robot? Not saying you do, just saying this generally as I can’t get away from looking at it like that.

  • Navneet

    Thank you so much for this so very inspiring story Jessica. It made me realize that the focus should be ME n ME ONLY. I am so grateful that I came across this website. Keep up the inspirational work. Thank you Jennifer Ramdeo you are nothing short of a genius n an angel. Stay blessed both of you 🙏

  • Jacob

    Please forgive me if this is a stupid question, but my SP and I never had a romantic relationship. I told her how I felt months ago and that’s when she stopped talking to me. However, I’ve never doubted that she has feelings for me (I don’t know why. I just think she’s afraid of telling me).
    Then, last month we talked via email. She said she missed me and that it was painful for her to stay away from me, and that she did it because she thought it was “the best for both of us” and then she disappeared again.
    My question is: if I keep believing that she loves me, even without her saying it to me… that means that she’ll reflect my beliefs and love me?

    Thank you

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